Saturday, March 6, 2010

Self Confidence By 11 Simple Rules

Self confidence gives us the freedom to commit mistakes and cope with failure without making us feel worthless. If only we have confidence in ourselves, can we gain confidence of others. After all, most people are reluctant to back a project thats being pitched by someone who is nervous, fumbling and overly apologetic. On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who spoke clearly, who held his or her head high, who answered questions assuredly, and who readily admitted when he/she did not know something.

So where do you rate yourself on the scale of 1-10 for your confidence level? Do you think you fall in the low confidence bracket? Here is some good news for you. And the good news is that self-confidence can be learned and built on.

Lets start the process of building self-confidence. Remember there is no quick fix solution for it. Nonetheless, practice makes a man perfect. So all you have to do is try and implement the following given tips in your day to day life.


Recognize your insecurities: We all have insecurities in life. It can be anything from acne, to regrets, to friends at school. Giving a name to the things which make you feel unworthy, ashamed or inferior helps to combat them. You can try to pen down your thoughts and you will find that it makes you feel much lighter and happier. Remember that no one is perfect. The man or woman sitting next to you might have the same amount of insecurities as you have. If writing doesnt come easily to you, you might want to talk it out with your friends or loved ones. Sharing your thoughts will help relieve the burden you have been carrying all alone.

Identify your successes: No matter how insecure you might feel, God has blessed each one of us with some talent. Discover the things you are good at and then focus on improving them. Give yourself permission to take pride in your talents. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which youve declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized.

Be thankful for what you have: A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether its emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.

Be positive: Avoid self-pity or sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others.

Dress sharp: Although clothes don't make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. When you dont look good, you dont feel good. It changes the way you carry yourself and interact with people. This doesn'tt mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes.

Walk faster: Your gait tells a lot about your personality. Is it slow? Tired? Painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. You can increase yourself confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.

Compliment other people: When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, youll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

Take the front seat: Back benchers might seem to have a lot of fun in schools and colleges but that does nothing to boost their self confidence. Don't be afraid to get noticed. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over your irrational fear of getting noticed and build your self confidence.

Speak up: Its a general observation that many people are afraid to speak or ask questions in a group discussion or a public gathering. They are afraid that they might be judged for saying something stupid. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you'll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

Work out: A healthy mind resides in a healthy body. If you are fit, you are surrounded by positivity and energy. If you are out of shape you feel unattractive. This leads to demoralization. Just a little discipline in your life can help shape up your self confidence in a big way.

Smile:
Last but not the least; try to smile as much as possible. People are always appreciative of a smiling face. You will be welcomed by anyone who comes in your contact. A smiling face is always received with warmth and affection. Acceptance and recognition from others helps in building self confidence.

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Wanita...

Kau digelar sebagai penyeri dunia,
hadirmu pelengkap hubungan manusia,
bukan dirimu insan biasa,
malah adam turut sunyi tanpa hawa..

WANITA..
tercipta engkau dari rusuk lelaki,
bukan dari kaki untuk dialasi,
bukan dari kepala untuk dijunjung,
tapi dekat dibahu untuk dilindung,
dekat jua dihati untuk dikasihi..
engkaulah WANITA hiasan duniawi...

WANITA..
hiasan dunia..
seindah hiasan adalah wanita solehah..
yang akan membahagiakan syurga didalam rumah tangga..

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

'Hawa'

Hawa..
Andai engkau masih remaja,
Jadilah anak yang solehah buat ibu bapamu
Andai engkau sudah bersuami,
Jadilah isteri yang meringankan beban suami mu
Andai engkau masih ibu,
Didiklah anakmu sehingga dia tidak gentar memperjuangkan agama Allah

Hawa..
Andai engkau belum berkahwin,
Jangan kau risau jodohmu,
Ingatlah Hawa janji tuhan kita,
Wanita yang baik adalah untuk lelaki yang baik,
Jangan dimulakan sebuah pertemuan dengan lelaki yang bukan muhrim,
Kerana aku khuatir,
Dari mata jatuh kehati,
Maka lahirnya senyuman,
Maka tercetusnya salam,
Dan sekali gus di susuli dengan pertemuan,
Takut lahirnya nafsu kejahatan yang menguasai diri.

Hawa..
Lelaki yang baik tidak melihat paras rupa,
Lelaki yang soleh tidak memilih wanita melalui keseksiannya,
Lelaki yang baik akan menilai wanita melalui akhlaknya, peribadinya dan yang penting agamanya.
Lelaki yang baik juga tidak menginginkan pertemuan dengan wanita yang bukan muhrimnya kerana dia takut memberi kesempatan kepada syaitan untuk menggodanya.
Kerana dia tahu ape matlamatnya dalam sebuah pertemuan lelaki dan wanita,
Yakni sebuah perkahwinan.

Oleh itu Hawa ..
Jagalah pandanganmu, awasilah auratmu, peliharalah akhlakmu, kuatkan pendirianmu.
Andai ditakdirkan tiada cinta daripada Adam untukmu,
Cukuplah hanya cinta Allah memenuhi dan menyinari kekosongan jiwamu,
Biarlah hanya cinta dari kedua ibu bapamu
Yang memberi hangat kebahagian buat dirimu,
Cukuplah sekadar cinta adik-beradik serta
Keluarga yang membahagiakan dirimu.

Hawa...
Cintailah Allah dikala susah dan senang
Kerana kau akan memperolehi cinta daripada insan yang juga menyintai Allah.
Cintailah kedua ibu bapamu,
Kerana kau akan memperolehi keredhaan Allah.
Cintailah keluargamu,
Kerana kau tak akan jumpa cinta yang bahagia selain dari cinta keluarga.
Janganlah sesekali tangan yang mengoncang dunia juga mengoncang iman lelaki.

Wassalam...

Istimewa Buat Insan Yang Bergelar 'Wanita'

Buat teman-teman yang diingati..
Jangan dicinta kerana dia lelaki
Kelak kita akan membenci
Jika dia bukan lelaki yang dicari
Hanya pandai menabur janji...

Jangan di rindu pada paras rupa
Kelak kita akan terseksa
Jika dia tidak sebaik rupanya
Senyumnya manis tipu belaka...

Jangan disayang kerana berharta
Kelak kita hidup menderita
Jika hartanya habis dibelanja
Sukar hidup, miskin dan papa...

Jangan dikasih kerana dipuji
Kelak kita menagih janji
Jika rupa berkedut dimamah hari
Hilang sudah puji memuji....

Jangan dicari seorang kekasih
Kelak kita akan disisih
Jika kasih luntur bersih
Menangislah diri hidup bersedih...

Jangan disambut salam rindu
Kelak kita menahan sendu
Jika rindu tak dapat disatu
Dimanakah kita akan mengadu...

Jangan dilayan seorang teman
Kelak hidup menjadi ancaman
Jika teman tidak beriman
Dibakar api hari kemudian...

Wahai sahabat wahai teman
Carilah dia kerana tuhan
Untuk menambah ceteknya iman
Bekalan diri hidup berteman...

Wahai sahabat wahai teman
Cintalah dia kerana beriman
Dijadikan tuhan sebagai pasangan
Baik buruk ketentuan tuhan

Wahai sahabat wahai teman
Terimalah dia penuh keikhlasan
Andai buruk angaplah dugaan
Andai baik pujilah tuhan...

Wahai sahabat wahai teman
Ingatlah akan janji tuhan
Isteri yang baik besar balasan
Suami penyabar itulah kemenagan...

Thursday, February 11, 2010

NATURAL HERBAL KIDNEYS CLEANSER.

CLEAN YOUR KIDNEYS WITH LESS THAN A DOLLAR..

Years pass by and our kidneys are filtering the blood by removing salt, poison and any unwanted entering our body. With time, the salt accumulates and this needs to undergo cleaning treatments.

How are we going to do this?
It is very easy, first take a bunch of parsley and wash it clean
Then cut it in small pieces and put it in a pot and pour clean water and boil it for ten minutes and let it cool down and then filter it and pour in a clean bottle and keep it inside refrigerator to cool.


Drink one glass daily and you will notice all salt and other accumulated poison coming out of your kidney by urination. Also you will be able to notice the difference which you never felt before.

Parsley is known as best cleaning treatment for kidneys and it is natural.

Monday, January 25, 2010

WANITA - AKAL SENIPIS RAMBUT

jangankan lelaki biasa, nabi pun terasa sunyi tanpa wanita…
tanpa mereka, fikiran & perasaan lelaki akan resah…
masih mencari walau ada segalanya…
apa yang tiada dalam syurga?
namun ADAM tetap rindukan HAWA…

dijadikan wanita daripada tulang rusuk yang bengkok untuk diluruskan oleh lelaki…
tapi seandainya lelaki itu sendiri tidak lurus, mana mungkin kayu yang bengkok menghasilkan bayang yang lurus…
luruskan wanita dengan jalan yang ditunjukkan oleh ALLAH swt…
kerana mereka diciptakan sebegitu oleh ALLAH swt…

didiklah mereka dengan panduan dari-Nya…
janganlah cuba menjinakkan mereka dengan harta, kerana hati mereka akan semakin liar…
janganlah hiburkan mereka dengan kecantikan kerana realitinya mereka semakin derita…
kenalkan mereka kepada ALLAH, zat yang kekal…
di situ punca kekuatan dunia…

akal senipis rambutnya, tebalkan ia dengan ilmu…
hati serapuh kaca, kuatkan ia dengan akhlak…
suburkan ia kerana dari situ nantinya mereka akan lihat nilaian & keadilan
TUHAN…

bisikkan ke telinga mereka bahawa kelembutan bukan satu kelemahan…
ia bukan diskriminasi TUHAN, sebaliknya di situlah kasih & sayang TUHAN…
wanita lupa hakikat kejadiannya, pasti tak akan terhibur & tak akan menghiburkan…
tanpa iman, ilmu & akhlak, mereka tak akan lurus…
bahkan semakin membengkok…
itulah akibatnya andai wanita tak kenal TUHANnya…

bila wanita menjadi derhaka, pasti dunia lelaki menjadi huru hara…
lelaki jangan pula mengharapkan ketaatan semata mata…
tapi binalah kepimpinan…
pastikan sebelum memimpin wanita menuju ILAHI pimpinlah diri kepada-Nya…
jinakkanlah diri kepada ALLAH, nescaya akan jinaklah segala galanya di bawah pimpinanmu…
janganlah mengharapkan isteri semulia FATIMAH AZ-ZAHRAH, andai dirimu tak sehebat SAIDINA ALI KARAMALLAHUWAJHAH.

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